When my first son was born, I didn’t have a large network of Catholic friends in my community.  As I gradually connected with like-minded Catholic women, my appreciation of my faith and my confidence in my parenting choices both increased.  The Handbook for Catholic Moms reminded me of how much I benefited (and still do!) from the advice, support, and friendship of other Catholic moms because this book feels like a personal letter from a good Catholic friend.

In her first book, Lisa Hendey– writer, speaker, podcaster, and creator of CatholicMom.com– explores ways that Catholic women can nurture their hearts, minds, bodies, and souls.  Within each section, she discusses relevant topics such as creativity or physical health that are components of a healthy and unified female Catholic identity.  Each chapter ends with a list of reflection prompts and action items designed to help readers take positive steps.  Chapters also include lists of additional resources for further exploration.

When I first received this book, I wasn’t sure what to expect.  I happen to love the “Catholic mom” literary genre, so I was curious to see how Lisa’s book differed from other books I had read about Catholic mothering.  Lisa’s approach was imbued with her own unique perspective and was structured in a completely different way.  Most significantly though, at least to me, was the friendly, comfortable tone.  I’ve never met Lisa in real life; but this book felt like she’d lifted my spirits and encouraged me on my journey as we chatted over coffee.

I was particularly inspired by the chapter on creativity.  As I reflected on a mom’s need for a creative outlet, I realized the importance of continuing to nurture this aspect of myself.  After my first son was born, I felt called to write.  Writing and blogging fulfilled that creative outlet and inspired in me an appreciation for the creative action of the Holy Spirit.  Yet reflecting on my need for creativity helped me to see that I’d changed my focus as a writer: I had begun to see writing as work.  This chapter in The Handbook for Catholic Moms set me on the path of refocusing on why I write and who I’m writing for and encouraged me to let go for a bit in order to really listen for God’s call before taking the next step.

This is a book that a mom could read and re-read because each chapter will touch you differently throughout your life.  When I pick up this book again in a year, different quotes from Scripture, the saints, or the Catechism will speak to me at that point.  Lisa has beautifully identified the needs of a Catholic mom’s heart, mind, body, and soul and created a book that will guide Catholic women towards truly caring for themselves so they can better love and serve those around them.

I received a review copy.

I had always heard about Lectio Divina, and after completing a four year Bible study program this past spring, I feel like I am entering into a new relationship with Scripture.   But this book really made the technique of Lectio Divina come alive for me.

Praying Scripture for a Change, by Dr. Tim Gray, is an excellent resource for readers who are seeking a clear explanation of Lectio Divina and a step-by-step approach to practicing this prayer technique.  Lectio Divina, or “divine reading,” is a technique that seems straightforward but draws you into an infinitely deep experience of God.  Dr. Gray employs a conversational style and interesting comparisons to clearly explain this beautiful process of using Scripture to progress towards contemplative prayer.

Dr. Gray uses the metaphor of a ladder to unpack this technique, and each chapter leads the reader higher on the ladder.  Dr. Gray explains how we must begin by reading Scripture, meditating on a particular phrase or passage, and talking with God about how those words impact our lives before we can achieve the experience of contemplative prayer.  He also adds a final step–action– since a genuine experience of God’s loving presence transforms us.

I thoroughly enjoyed this book and will return to it frequently to continue to deepen my appreciation for God’s word.  Both experts and beginners like myself will find beautiful insights into this ancient practice– a method of prayer that Pope Benedict said could bring “a new spiritual springtime” to the Church.

I received a review copy of this book from Catholic Word.  For more information about Praying Scripture for a Change or to view collective books and resources from over 20 Catholic publishers, visit CatholicWord.com.

My favorite summer activity is here!   (I know I’m not the only one who loved summer reading assignments….)

Head over to the Catholic Summer Reading site and vote for your favorites.  The finalists include an interesting mix of fiction and nonfiction written by saints, bishops, priests, and lay people.  Lots of interesting books to choose from and settle into the hammock with.

An analysis of various atheist arguments wasn’t exactly what I had in mind when I decided to peruse the Catholic Company reviewer list and choose my next book.  At 9 months pregnant, I was more in the mood for a nap.

Yet I was drawn to this book because it offered both a profile of a number of atheist and theist scientists and philosophers as well as a story of the author Kevin Vost’s reversion from atheism to Catholicism.

In section 1, Vost explores the thinking of several prominent atheist thinkers, explaining how their ideas attracted him initially and then how their philosophies’ internal logic fell apart as he came back to his Catholic faith.  Section 2 discusses the philosophers and psychologists whose work led him to consider the possibility of believing in God.  And Section 3 talks about the Catholic thinkers whose writings convinced him of the truth of the gospel and the traditions of the Catholic Church.

Growing up without much catechesis, although schooled at Catholic institutions, Vost drifted away and embraced atheism before eventually returning to the faith of his childhood.  An intellectual to the core, Vost can interest both atheist and Christian readers since his background in academia and logical approach present him as one unlikely to be hoodwinked by a fable.

I appreciated the opportunity to learn more about the philosophies of some atheist thinkers.  My copy of this book is now heavily underlined, bracketed, and starred.  Yet I wished the book had been a more concise account and rebuttal of these beliefs.  The author touches on the ideas that appealed to him personally, but I felt that he could have presented the beliefs more thoroughly or offered more substantial rebuttals.  I was hoping for an action plan for responding to atheist arguments which really wasn’t the purpose of this book.

Additionally, the author frequently explained where each chapter was headed instead of simply heading there.  While certainly dealing with challenging material, Vost seemed to rely on “telling” versus “showing” in order to communicate the material in a manageable way (i.e. “In this chapter we will…” or “What I would like to do is…”).  This approach contributes to the readability of the book and makes the material more accessible in some ways; yet it felt at times like a barrier to actually engaging with the arguments.

From Atheism to Catholicism was an interesting read.  Readers will encounter several perspectives on reason, science, and faith and learn a bit about certain prominent thinkers.  It may fit the needs of a reader interested in learning how these philosophies influenced one man’s spiritual path.

This review was written as part of the Catholic books reviewer program from The Catholic Company. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information on From Atheism to Catholicism .

Head over to Catholic Mom for a chance to win a New Baby prize pack.  This giveaway ends June 30, 2010, so there are only a few days left to win all kinds of helpful books and products!

We are so happy to welcome our second son!  Thankfully we are all feeling well and adjusting beautifully!  I’m thoroughly enjoying the hidden life of the home at the moment and still discerning my next steps as a writer and blogger, so my website update is moving more slowly than I had planned.  I’ll continue to post sporadically as I explore what God has for me as part of this blessed new step.

This blog.

A baby.

Both are big projects, so I’ll return when I’ve seen them through!

I had to come back from my blogging break to chime in on a topic that is just too important to remain silent about.  Over at Faith & Family, Kate Wicker has a beautiful article about her experiences working through postpartum depression.  And she quotes….. me!  It might not be the most glamorous topic, but sharing our experiences can help to normalize PPD for other women.

After an illness during pregnancy and an appendectomy several days postpartum, my poor body was in serious need of some rest.  Add to that a (in kind terms) “Type A” personality, and PPD was pretty much unavoidable.  Extreme physical fatigue + a feeling that safety comes from control (when a new baby is probably one of the most uncontrollable life experiences possible!) + destabilizing situational factors = too much for little old me.  Hello, PPD.

Kate’s article does a wonderful job reminding us to ask for help in these situations, and all kinds of help is available.  Your care provider and support team (especially an NFP-knowledgeable physician) can help you explore physical causes, nutrition and supplementation, hormone therapy, counseling, medication, and spiritual direction.

What I’ve come to realize about my own experience is how much God was using it to grow me spiritually.  I don’t mean that there weren’t underlying physical causes.  In fact, physical causes usually trigger PPD, so your doctor can help you explore those first.  The placenta produces progesterone and estrogen, and delivering it causes these levels to drop quickly.  Adrenal fatigue and nutritional imbalances can also cause or exacerbate anxiety and depression.  So I definitely don’t mean to suggest that depression is simply a spiritual problem that we need to fix.  (That would lead us control freaks down a futile road, wouldn’t it!)

No, I mean that– in retrospect–PPD was one way that God was calling me to Him. It set me on a path to a kind of spiritual healing, growth, and dependence on God that I never would have encountered without such a mirror into the ways that I needed to completely give my life over.

Don’t get me wrong.  Women absolutely SHOULD NOT suffer when there are so many helps available If you struggle with cycle or pregnancy-related anxiety/depression, call your doctor immediately.

I simply mean to say that, in looking back, I can see a significant spiritual component for my own personal experience.  As a commenter at F&F described, “while PPD usually starts in response to chemical reactions in the brain after pregnancy and delivery, it can continue for other reasons that might lay hidden in the recesses of your heart.”  That’s where spiritual direction and therapy can make such an important difference.

I loved Kate’s follow-up post at her blog.  She describes in more detail her own experience with PPD– including the paths to healing that she explored and what specifically worked for her.

The comments on her original post at Faith & Family also offered helpful tips, including a reminder that Catholic Therapists can help you search for like-minded providers in your area.

And, at her own blog, Suzanne Temple shared her personal experience with NaProTechnology. When I interviewed him recently for a magazine article, Dr. Hilgers explained that he has found that about 95% of patients with premenstrual or postpartum depression respond to “an improvement in progesterone production or administration” (while at the same time explaining that some patients require antidepressants and/or psychiatric treatment).

As I read through these posts and comments, I was struck by two things:

1.  Women should know about the range of treatment options available to them.  What works for some may not work for others, but all should be considered as part of a comprehensive approach to PPD.

2.  My experience with PPD is different from her experience or her experience or your experience.  But it should bring women comfort to know that, although experienced differently, PPD is not uncommon.  It’s in the best interests of all women (and families!) to continue to talk openly about this important aspect of our health.

Catholic Resources for Postpartum Depression

Pastoral Solutions Institute– Catholic tele-counseling services

CatholicTherapists.com– Connections with local therapists who share your faith background

Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition, 4th ed.– A book by Marilyn Shannon recommending nutrition, supplement, and lifestyle changes to help with various cycle irregularities

Pope Paul VI Institute– Creators of NaProTechnology, a medical approach to identifying and treating hormone imbalances that frequently cause PPD and PMS

My one week blogging fast has turned into… well… considerably more time.  And as I’ve enjoyed the silence of the last few weeks, I’ve realized that I need this time more than I expected.  I need to wait.  To rest.  To listen for the next steps to take.  Most importantly, I need to really experience the ways God is moving in my life as I wait for the arrival of our Baby #2. 

I’m working on a number of projects and plan to return to this little corner of the blogosphere in due time.  Until then, though, I’ll be spending my time appreciating the pause and asking God to show me where to head next. 

At the Catholic Writer’s Conference Online, Susie Lloyd author of Please Don’t Drink the Holy Water and Bless Me Father, For I Have Kids– spoke about balancing her family life and writing commitments.  When I asked her if she had ever needed to step away from her work to focus on her faith and family, she offered the following advice:

Let the well refill.  Inspiration will come back if you are a whole person.     

I plan to do just that: step back, fall silent, and let the well refill.  May you also experience the peace and discernment you seek during this Lenten season!

I recently interviewed Lisa Hendey, founder of Catholic Mom and author of The Handbook for Catholic Moms.  As I thought about our conversation, I saw Easter as a season of renewal and rebirth.

Then I read this article at Catholic Culture about creating a personal program for Lent.  It’s that personal program during the Lenten season– listening, offering, asking God to help you make room for Him– that results in renewal.

There is so much I’d love to do, but that doesn’t necessarily fit with what I CAN do.  I don’t want to put too much on myself; I’ve got to grow a baby, first and foremost!  But I’ve been feeling God calling me to surrender a few things and explore a few others.  I need to take a step back in some areas to step forward over all.  So here’s my own “personal program” for Lent 2010.  Hopefully posting it here will give me some extra accountability!

PRAYER

  • Daily Mass once a week.  This has fallen out of my schedule, and I need it back.
  • Stations of the Cross on Fridays.
  • Seasonal decorations on our prayer shelf.

FASTING AND ABSTAINING

  • Blogging fast.  I’m taking the plunge!  After this one, blog posts will stop for the week.  I’m also closing comments on future posts (great suggestion, Kate!) in order to minimize the time I spend on the internet.  (Although I will miss you all!)
  • Snoozing fast on weekdays.  With ACT season approaching, my freelance education projects (tutoring and curriculum development) are in full swing.  I’ve been feeling a bit a lot overwhelmed, and now is my chance to give God and my family the attention He/they deserve.  So… goodbye snooze!  I’ll be sticking to my new rule– going to bed earlier, getting up on time, prioritizing my commitments, and working on projects ONLY during scheduled work times.

ALMSGIVING AND GOOD WORKS

  • This is the real reason for the snoozing and blogging fasts.  The linked article reminds us that our duties at work or in the home require us to make the most of the time we are given each day and focus on cultivating the virtues.  This Lent, I really feel the need to step back, regroup, and recommit my heart to the Lord in order to use my time efficiently and serve my family joyfully.

Because of his age, I have no special plans for getting my son involved.  I’m trusting that, as Peter and Catherine Fournier explained when I spoke to them for a recent article, my example will leave the biggest impression.  He’ll be with me for many of the prayer changes and will benefit from the others, so that’s enough for me this year.  For Lenten activities for your own kiddos, check out Catholic Mom’s amazing resources.

Wondering why Catholics sacrifice?   A quote from Pope Benedict XVI that I found at Kitchen Stewardship:

“In our own day, fasting seems to have lost something of its spiritual meaning, and has taken on, in a culture characterized by the search for material well-being, a therapeutic value for the care of one’s body. Fasting certainly bring benefits to physical well-being, but for believers, it is, in the first place, a “therapy” to heal all that prevents them from conformity to the will of God”

“Voluntary fasting enables us to grow in the spirit of the Good Samaritan, who bends low and goes to the help of his suffering brother (cf. Encyclical Deus caritas est, 15). By freely embracing an act of self-denial for the sake of another, we make a statement that our brother or sister in need is not a stranger”

Have some questions about Lent?  Check out Aggie Catholics’ Lent 2010 mega-post.

Thank you for reading and sharing!  I learn so much from all of you.  Have a fruitful Lent!

Have your own ideas for Lent 2010?  Looking for inspiration from other Catholic mamas?  Join the “What Are You Doing For Lent?” Carnival at Kitchen Stewardship.

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